Readers (if there are) are probably wondering who am I or what is the purpose of this blog? Is this going to talk about closets? Clothes? Or anything you could find in a closet? It won't! This has nothing to do with clothes and closets. This is about the individuals' sexuality who couldn't just freely act on it. They are what we called "Closet Queens".
What does closet queen means?
One who secretly engages in homosexual activities while leading an ostensibly heterosexual life - http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/closet+queen
A lot of people are so afraid to talk about homosexuality. Some even pretends that they have an open mind to accept that this is really happening. But, when the situation is in front of them, they could not even bare looking that person in the eye and say "I know what you're going through, I understand". Instead, they avoid to engaged with that person and even treat them like they have a disease. For some, they can't even say the word "gay" or "lesbian". Some that are gay and lesbian can't even admit that they are or even say those words by themselves.
This blog will be a gateway for all of us who are so afraid to come out in the open and be proud to be what we are. We will educate people and will try to open their minds by explaining or defining what we are or just teach them to accept who we are.
Let me start with the definition of terms for more understanding.
Homosexual - a person whose sexual preference is members of the same sex. Male homosexuals are usually referred to as gays, and females as lesbians. Homosexuality is not a perversion or a disease, but merely an aspect of sexuality that has been around for thousands of years.(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=homosexual)
Lesbian - a woman whose emotional, romantic, and sexual energies are geared towards other women. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lesbian)
What does closet queen means?
One who secretly engages in homosexual activities while leading an ostensibly heterosexual life - http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/closet+queen
A lot of people are so afraid to talk about homosexuality. Some even pretends that they have an open mind to accept that this is really happening. But, when the situation is in front of them, they could not even bare looking that person in the eye and say "I know what you're going through, I understand". Instead, they avoid to engaged with that person and even treat them like they have a disease. For some, they can't even say the word "gay" or "lesbian". Some that are gay and lesbian can't even admit that they are or even say those words by themselves.
This blog will be a gateway for all of us who are so afraid to come out in the open and be proud to be what we are. We will educate people and will try to open their minds by explaining or defining what we are or just teach them to accept who we are.
Let me start with the definition of terms for more understanding.
Homosexual - a person whose sexual preference is members of the same sex. Male homosexuals are usually referred to as gays, and females as lesbians. Homosexuality is not a perversion or a disease, but merely an aspect of sexuality that has been around for thousands of years.(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=homosexual)
Lesbian - a woman whose emotional, romantic, and sexual energies are geared towards other women. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lesbian)
- Butch - (of male or female homosexuals) characterized by stereotypically male traits or appearance. (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/butch)
- Femme - a very feminine lesbian who wears make up, thongs, baby tees, mini skirts, fishnet thigh highs, tight jeans, etc. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=femme&page=2)
Bisexual - A person capable of having physical, romantic, and sexual attraction attractions towards both sexes. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bisexual)
Gay - sexual attraction to one of the same sex. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gay)
Transgender - a person who feels that the body into which they were born doesn't represent their true gender. this person may simply dress as their opposite gender and live their life as the opposite gender that way; or this person might get an operation to change their sex organs. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=transgender)
Tomboy - a girl who behaves in a boyish manner. (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/tomboy)
Queer - Originally and still meaning "weirdly or strangely different", it is an epithet used to insult homosexuals, primarly gay men. There is an attempt to rehabilitate "queer" to be an umbrella term for the GLBT community. Therefore they pick a word that will always mean "weirdly or strangely different", a word that obviously, from the readings of most of these contributions to the word "queer", it is still used is an very ugly way to describe homosexuals. I suspect it will always be said among bigots with a smirk. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=queer&page=4)
and so much more. Look at www.urbandictionary.com if there are terms you still needs to clear out.
Now that we have defined some of the terms, try to identify where does your sexuality applies.
It's been a dilemma for some of us who couldn't be ourselves and afraid to get criticized for what we are practicing (or maybe not yet practicing). We remained inside the closet to protect ourselves...our family from getting hurt. We hide and we hide not knowing that hiding just keeps the best of us inside the closet. Hiding hurts us more than we could ever imagine. Being inside made us live our lives in a lie.
Some had the courage but most of us cannot be that courageous.
Tell me your reasons....
This is our community. We will help one another. From the person whose in a confused state of mind wondering if she/he is gay or not up to the gay relationships where people are in need of someone to talk, shock absorber and a helpful advise. No one will ever understand us but also our the same kind. We should have each other.
Gay - sexual attraction to one of the same sex. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gay)
Transgender - a person who feels that the body into which they were born doesn't represent their true gender. this person may simply dress as their opposite gender and live their life as the opposite gender that way; or this person might get an operation to change their sex organs. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=transgender)
Tomboy - a girl who behaves in a boyish manner. (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/tomboy)
Queer - Originally and still meaning "weirdly or strangely different", it is an epithet used to insult homosexuals, primarly gay men. There is an attempt to rehabilitate "queer" to be an umbrella term for the GLBT community. Therefore they pick a word that will always mean "weirdly or strangely different", a word that obviously, from the readings of most of these contributions to the word "queer", it is still used is an very ugly way to describe homosexuals. I suspect it will always be said among bigots with a smirk. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=queer&page=4)
and so much more. Look at www.urbandictionary.com if there are terms you still needs to clear out.
Now that we have defined some of the terms, try to identify where does your sexuality applies.
It's been a dilemma for some of us who couldn't be ourselves and afraid to get criticized for what we are practicing (or maybe not yet practicing). We remained inside the closet to protect ourselves...our family from getting hurt. We hide and we hide not knowing that hiding just keeps the best of us inside the closet. Hiding hurts us more than we could ever imagine. Being inside made us live our lives in a lie.
Some had the courage but most of us cannot be that courageous.
Tell me your reasons....
This is our community. We will help one another. From the person whose in a confused state of mind wondering if she/he is gay or not up to the gay relationships where people are in need of someone to talk, shock absorber and a helpful advise. No one will ever understand us but also our the same kind. We should have each other.
2 comments:
I hope this will lighten the burden of anyone whose in need of guidance. Sometimes, having to talk to someone who truly understands what you're going through is such a big relief...
If coming out is as simple as saying "I am happy!" then sign me up! I will be the first one to admit that I am one. But its not easy.
Admitting something taboo is hard. It is like you're inviting people to criticize you and the choices you've made for yourself. Not all people are brave to do that. That's why people like me decided to stay in the closet forever because its much easier. Oh wait.. is it easier to stay in the closet??
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